Why is it so difficult to forgive? There are those who were the closest of friends who have never talked to each other again. There are relatives that have closed their ties because there is no forgiveness. How do we eliminate the barrier?
It is the dust of arrogance that breaks the bond, and it is the same dust that prevents us from connecting the bond. What is arrogance? Arrogance is the feeling of superiority due to having more than someone. This can be more education, more knowledge, more money, more power, or even more religious values (moral). Many times, when we accuse or judge a person we are using the dust of arrogance. We are at risk of breaking a bond. Sometime the bonds are close to breaking, like a rope that is ready to snap. But whether it is a weak or strong bond, once the bond breaks, it is difficult to unite again.
How do we connect the bond? We must eliminate arrogance. But unless both parties remove the dust, it will be extremely difficult. To forgive, without removing arrogance is like a bandage over an amputation. The forgiveness will not work. Both parties must make herculean efforts to remove their arrogance.